Saturday, January 21, 2012

Kids this age

We were watching TV and the ad on Courts Mammoth were aired. And this is what Eussuv said :

Eussuv : "Mom, my friend said Courts Mammoth is where orang kampung and orang tak kaya shops"
Mom: "Huh??" (in disbelief)
Eussuv: "Really mom. My friend said that!"
Mom: "How does he know?"
Eussuv: "I don't know. But I think so too."
Mom: "Why do you think so?"
Eussuv: "Because it's cheap. And my friend said rich people go shopping at IKEA.."

I further asked him what made his friend brought up the Courts Mammoth talk, and he said "oh we were just talking!" Earlier of the day as I was talking about handbags, Eussuv asked me if a Coach handbag is expensive. Again I asked him how does he know about Coach handbag (since I don't own one obviously!), he said his TEACHER has one. A teacher owns a Coach handbag..WOW! And he also asked if a GUESS handbag is also expensive. OH boy!

The moral of the story is, an 11 year old boy these days is already thinking about the value of things, know of judging people from where they shop, what they wear and so on. I was taken aback with all these as I always tell my kids not to judge people from what they wear, the car their fathers drive, the toys and gadgets they have. But I guess I really can't protect from talking from their friends and get influenced by them. What I can do is instill the good values in them and hope that it gets to them and stay within them. I have started and I will not stop. I hope they will turn out to be "good" individuals", not judgmental ones!


Thursday, January 12, 2012

Unleash and conquer your potentials

I had the chance to go to a seminar of the above title over the weekend. It was a half day seminar of which I only paid RM20, 60% off the usual rate (later I found out that some people had it for free!). This seminar is so called the talk of the town with the people who supposedly "looking for a change" in their lives and who is determined to change. Then again, as I already predicted, this is only a preview seminar... you have to pay quite a bomb to go the more advanced class which is supposedly change your life to be "wealthy and successful". The main person behind this seminar is once a failure who wanted to "share" his success formula with the rest of Malaysian so that "everybody in Malaysia" becomes wealthy and thus, successful.

It was a very interactive seminar where it started with an energetic 'chicken dance' where everybody had to go with it, jumping and clapping in a very packed room with more than 500 participants, no kidding! Every question must be answered with a very loud yes and or clap or positive phrases like 'wealthy and successful'. And questions popped every 5 mins or so. The speaker, the success guru I would call him, seemed to be worshiped by the whole room. He's like the God of success who determines our success in life, who will make us rich. And the room roared with "rich" energy as he went on and on talking about how successful he is with a few Porsche, a bungalow with a swimming pool, lepak session with the celebrities and yada yada.. He even made fun of many "not so successful" people who's leading a regular life with regular income as compared to him who's making.. err maybe "not so much" but about a few millions a month.. as he put it. Maybe it's his way to make people feel challenged so that you get up and change your life! I don't know.

The main point presented in the seminar was The Power of Success. He talked about 6 powers of success which are:
- Power of Gratitude 
- Power of Giving
- Power of Action
- Power of Dreams
- Power of Focus
- Power of Character

These are all relevant factors of achieving what you want in life. I did learn something from it and did make some thinking of where my life is leading and what action should I take. But did I run to the stage to register myself to the advanced class to get some discount for being the first 30 to register? NO. Did I send the registration form as he suggested, in case I decide to join later? NO. Did I actually think that he can make me wealthy and successful.NO. 

I will not make someone who thinks so highly of himself, as high as God as my mentor. I will not make someone my mentor who belittles those who drives a Proton just because he drives a Porsche. I will not make someone as a mentor when he is so sure that he can change someone's life with a money back guarantee. He IS NOT God! And I will not make someone a mentor when he equates being successful in life to the millions he has in the bank!

Good luck to those who paid a bomb to change your life, while you can change your life at no cost but with lots of determination. And you can really find a mentor who's still stepping on the earth not floating on the air!

PS: This is purely my holy own opinion. Others may think otherwise and totally agree and follow his teachings.

Thursday, January 5, 2012

Of hopes and prayers ..2012

I finally have my quiet moment on the 5th day of the year. I feel like I have so much to scribble here, to pour out my head content, at the same time trying to catch Oprah's Best Viewer's Surprises on telly. The kids are all in school and I have less half hour before I move on to my next chore, cooking! 

I am just amazed at how time flies. I am already in my 4th year of 'retirement'...It has been 3 full years, 3 blissful, challenging year. Challenging in trying to find out who I really am, challenging in trying to fit in the new life of not earning any $ myself and most challenging to be real fulltime mother (and I am still struggling!) But it's always a bliss not having to think about office, bosses, meetings and deadlines. Purely a bliss! Having said all this, I am not sure I will still have the haven this year. The financial challenge has taken a toll on me that I might give up my quiet moments soon. Still this is only a plan that's not being finalised. Perhaps. That's my hope and prayers for the year - I have to do something to fill in the gap in the financial area. When you are used to have something you don't know it's there, but when it's not there, you immediately feel it. You thought it's gonna pass, you pray that it will, but over time you know that things do not simply come falling from the sky, you just have to get up and do something to achieve what you desire. So that's one of my biggest hope and prayer for 2012, to be financially able again. I'm already planning.

For the kids, I have my hopes too. I pray and hope for Irsyad to be a better person. He is known to be one smile-less person and not easy to communicate with, especially with his friends. He needs to smile more, and be friendly and be an easy-going person. I already told him this and will follow up on his progress. For Eussuv, I need him to be more focused and confident that he can do it. He thinks that he's not smart enough to be able to follow Abang's footsteps in studies. I'm pretty sure he has the capability, he just need to be confident. For Aisyah, I hope she will grow up gracefully, be mom and dad's big girl, not a baby. Being the only girl, she tends to be a bit manja. The same goes to Omar as well. I know he's still a little boy, not even 6. But I hope he will not be as manja as he is now. And I need to prepare him for school this year. 

Above all this, I pray that everybody will be healthy this year, especially me and hubby. I am a bit worried where health is concerned because illness can just pop out anytime if we are not cautious of our lifestyle. 

I pray and hope, we will have a better year this year. Perhaps I should chart out some sort of planning for the year. Something that I never do before! This entry will be a starting point perhaps! (And I hope I can blog more too!)