Here I am blogging away on a Saturday night with 101 things to do in my head instead of blogging. It's only been two weeks now. I am a full housewife, I mean a real one. No maid, no help. Some people have no maid but have many "help" around the house. Could be from extended family member or hubby or kids. I have VERY little of that. I'm basically running aroud the house trying to do everything just like my maid used to do. I have yet to succeed. So far I only managed to mop upstairs once. Once!! My maid did it everyday. I surely cannot compare myself to her as her job was to clean the house, help me in cooking, do the laundry. I, on the other hand, other than taking over her job, I have the kids to care for, looking after their well-being and transport them everywhere, groceries shopping. No wonder I don't have enough time.
I don't know how other women do it, but I don't think I can last for long. There's so much to do and so little time. It is endless! I thought I can do it because I've done it before. Somehow rather this time I was wrong, it is so different. My body ache all over, I'm dead the minute my head touched the pillow at night, I can't watch any tv, read any paper and worst, no online time (unless I steal the time like now). It's rather hopeless. And still, I see all other women do it, all the time, no complaints!
And this is life?????
4 comments:
a full time mom is NEVER easy. even here, where i dont have to play the driver to anyone, I feel like there is not enough time to do it all. a maid's job is mainly just the cleaning.. we have to be MOM as well. that is the toughest part. i vacuumed 3 times a week, mop only twice a week except kitchen, fold clothes every 3 days!! if tiap hari nak buat what our maid did, memang u tak de masa nak read the papers, tgk tv, chill out...so take it easy!
Ye la Rozi... I sgt rasa stress! Now ni ada cleaner dtg once a week to cover whatever yg i tak boleh cover. Itu pun once a week je. Yang i miss the most is spending lazy times with the kids. Now I asyik in the kitchen or doing laundry or whatever cleaning.. n kids asyik kena marah dgn I.. hahaha.. dah jadi monster mom!
No complaints? Certainly not true. I have bucketful of it thrown to my husband every time he comes home. Not fair I know but I was tired, angry and fed up most of the time.
What I did was I choose what to do in a day apart from cooking & laundry. The rest I think can be done alternately. Over time I learn how to take things easy with the housework but off course my house was not immaculate because of my easy going way of doing the house chores. I had enough with the pressure of keeping up with the work. So stressful I was that I always end up having heart burn and at times felt like having a heart attack! Crying is a norm.
True, it is our children who suffer the most out of this situation. You feel guilty & sorry about being angry at them all the time but the next day the same things happened. The kids most of the time will be left to their own device. Kesian sgt.
Then you think of what have become of you. Reduced to just this machine doing the housework 24/7. You feel unworthy especially when all this hard work goes unnoticed. that alone will wear you down a lot.
I know exactly how you feel and symphatize. I pray for you will find a way to lighten the stress. All the very best my friend.
i'll be joining the maidless gang soon when my helper goes back 4 3 months in aug.. Dont know he hubby gonna help like he used to do before. Its gonna be 1st time in this bigger house that is already a mess even with maid
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